Basement & Bathtub Mojo

Joy to you!

Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!

bathYep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!

I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.

Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!)  My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower.  Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!

So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub.  It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh…  A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.

How ’bout you?  What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?

Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate?  And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?

Do You Dream of Time OFF?

Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!

Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?

vacaWhen was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?

Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work.  Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month!  Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!

Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now.  Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?

Notice: What’s coming up for you?  Are you hearing yourself say, for example:

  • “When I’m done with this project then maybe I’ll look at my calendar.”
  • “I don’t have time, with my family commitments and all..”
  • “I haven’t worked hard enough to really deserve time off.”
  • “There’s no money in the budget for a vacation.”
  • “Time off will only set me back and create more work.”
  • “I would love to but…(fill in the blank)”

Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …

It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your healthkiddie pool and well-being.

We *all* need time off!  And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!

Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.

If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!?  Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?

Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)

Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation!  Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair.  It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours!  Enjoy!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Do you realize your dream risks?

Nyc dancers

Joy to You!

As Dream Realization Coach and “Dream Queen,” I want to share a dream of my own – AND a special Dream Acceleration™ Exercise to support YOUR dream realization process with a make-it-real Dream Risk Assessment.

The photo on the right is of a recent dance “field trip” to NYC with some of my Providence Salsa Family.

We had a BLAST – after a 3-hour lesson in the afternoon with world-class teachers, we found our way to a Salsa Social at night that was AWESOME. Talk about energy! Whew! By the end of the night, my feet where aching, I was drenched in sweat, and my heart was SO happy.

Let the record show: I love ‘lil Rhody.

And every few months, I find an excuse to go to NYC to get my Big Apple fix, which is something that can continue … BUT lately, I’m finding that the more I go, the less I want to leave!

I’ve done the Risk Assessment Exercise (see below for details) about my budding dream to live in NYC, and I’ll be honest, my list in column #1 is L-O-N-G!  But since I think I’ll always wonder if I don’t (column #2) … I’m starting to take steps to plant seeds and find out more about what would need to happen to make the move. In case there was any doubt … know that we – you and I – are absolutely in this ongoing dream realization process together.

Let’s support one another.  Please leave a comment below about your own dreams-in-the-works and your Risk Assessment results, ok?

A Dream Acceleration Exercise for You:

In order to discover what’s under the bed or hiding in the unrealized dreams closet, this exercise will bring awareness to, and shine a light on, what might have you stuck.  This is a chance to set aside those reasonable reasons long enough to honor your DEEPER wisdom, connect to your bravery, and gain clarity about why you are where you are.

Ready? Set? Go!

Grab a blank piece of paper and fold it in half vertically or draw a simple table with two columns.

Label column 1: “Risks In Realizing my Dream of (fill in the blank).”

Then jot down the RISKS and costs that come to your mind about pursuing and realizing your dream.  Ask yourself these questions: What’s at risk if I am living my dream?  What do I need to consider in taking this leap of faith?  If you’re like most, it’s probably pretty easy for you to come up with risks considering your dream realization journey.

And most people stop right there. What’s too often NOT considered is identifying the costs of NOT pursuing your dream. What’s at risk if you DON’T go for it …  if you DON’T move forward into action?

Column 2: “Risks of NOT Pursuing My Dream of (fill in the blank).” 
Jot down the first things that come up for you around these questions:
  • What’s at risk if I don’t take action and move forward on my dream?
  • What’s the risk of always wondering?
  • What might the impact be on your happiness – even on your health?
  • How confident and proud of yourself will you be if you don’t explore the possibility?
  • And, lastly, how will it feel to always wonder about what could have been?

Only you know this answer for you, but as someone who has coached folks from age 18 to 78, I know keeping your deepest desires and dreams stored away, in a neat and tidy little box, to be a HUGE RISK!

Allow this exercise to support you.  More often than not, when there’s an honest assessment of not only the risks of going-for-it, but also the risks of staying exactly where you ARE … the costs of not finding out often far outweigh the potential costs and risks of going for it.

However big, small, silly or vague you may think your dream is, I believe that like the little sprouting acorn, your dreams are the voice of your soul, ready to burst through any obstacles and grow and live in the world.  And, there’s simply no way around the fact that in order to follow your dreams, you’ll absolutely need to leave your safe have and align yourself with support from those who believe in you and your dreams.

Want more support?  Click here.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara

Soggy Sandwiches & Pride Precautions on the Road to Dream Realization

I laughed out loud this week as I shared with a friend about my life in 2004 … I had just been laid off from my j-o-b and, embracing the opportunity to live my dream of being an entrepreneur, I “launched” my coaching company (a.k.a.: sent an anticlimactic email newsletter to friends and family).

I had slightly more than ZERO dollars in the bank and, weekly, I walked to a nearby deli, where for $6, they sold MASSIVE sandwiches (an entire loaf of bread stuffed with the deli selections of your choosing).  I’d order one, often paying with loose change, take it home, and cut it into 6 pieces: lunch, dinner, lunch, dinner, lunch, dinner… for the next three days!  Day 3 was always a bummer because by then it was super soggy. I ate it anyway because it’s what I had.

Ready to bust out?I didn’t have a Plan B. I didn’t have money … and I ALSO didn’t have anyone to bail me out if I failed. 

But what I DID have was:

  1. Fierce determination.
  2. A wobbly but committed belief in my fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants self.
  3. A willingness to do whatever it took to Be who I was Becoming … to fulfill the vision I saw of my own potential.

Do you see yourself in this?

Here’s another 2004 story that makes me laugh (now, not then) … 

Three nights a week, I got in my old beater car, said a prayer and turned the key. When it started, I said another one: “Thank God!”

With still-warm business cards in the pocket of my Dress Barn suit, I would find my way to that evening’s local business networking event. I was totally intimidated and frightfully aware that I really had no business being there (in more ways than one) – but I went anyway.  I intentionally parked my please-don’t-let-anyone-see-what-I’m-driving car at least 6 blocks away – a pride precaution.

I went determined to grow my mailing list.  I was all too aware that the “newsletter” I wrote each week was only being read ignored by friends and family.  So, at these networking events I always asked anyone who gave me their business card if I could have their permission to add them to my newsletter list.  For whatever reason, almost everyone agreed.  Little successes are important and I remember celebrating in my (“please start”) car after each event as I counted how many business cards I had collected.  I couldn’t wait to go home and add them to my growing-bit-by-bit mailing list.

This, a few pro bono clients, and an absolute unwillingness to quit, is how Create Your Life! began.

Of course a lot has happened between now and then … but flashing forward to now, these eight or so years later I no longer eat soggy sandwiches. I drive a car that I love (seen below).  And Create Your Life! serves clients around the world through a community that grows every day.

MINISO MUCH TRANSFORMATION has happened in my life and in my business since then that I barely recognize “circa 2004 Tara”!

And this is good news for YOU because … I’m on a mission to share everything I’ve learned about transformation – what works, what doesn’t, and how to get on your very own fast-track to who YOU are becoming.

Through my self-study, my graduate-level studies, and my trial-and-error lessons learned, I have created the comprehensive Dream Acceleration™ Program & Process to support YOU in accelerating your own busting out of that confining old shell, stepping up and out in a bigger, bolder way, and significantly speeding up your dream realization successes by connecting to and BEING your Future You … the self-actualized Self that YOU are in the process of becoming.

Eager to learn more about how to accelerate YOUR journey? I’d love to chat with you — my GIFT.  Just send me a quick email with “Dream Discovery session” in the header along with times that work best and we’ll get a date on the calendar to connect. That said, my calendar is tight, so the sooner you respond, the sooner we can chat!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,