A Bold Life Experiment

Experiments, by their very nature, aren’t about “doing it right”. They are about trial and error and opening up to new discoveries found along the way. Yet, all too often we stay put and play it “safe” – out of fear of failure, or doing it wrong, or believing it has to be perfectly perfect. These fears and limiting beliefs are exactly what keeps you stuck in repeating patterns and creating unwanted results.

By experimenting with new approaches and ways of being, life quickly becomes an adventure again, and new, exciting, creative opportunities begin to show themselves.

Today I want to:

  1. Give a sneak-peak into Day 1 of my FREE 5-Day Mission Possible Experiments-in-Action Program.
  2. Share a BOLD personal experiment I’m about to embark on in my own life. 

Here’s the scoop. The full 5-day Mission Possible Experiments-in-Action experience — which you can claim here — simply requires a willingness to engage in each of our five specially-designed, unique, powerful, fun, hands-on, can’t-do-it-wrong Experiments. Designed with busy people in mind, each high-impact experiment can easily be integrated into your day no matter what your schedule is.

And since “someday” is not a day of the week, it all starts NOW, with you creating a pure and powerful dream-accelerating ripple effect in your life, dusting off those dreams that have been put way up on that hard-to-reach shelf, or have been locked away or long forgotten – or that simply feel too unrealistic or impossible to ever actually come to fruition.

The 5-Day Experiments-in-Action Program will help you get personal with your dreams, open up to new discoveries, and activate that powerful, playful, dormant creativity that resides within YOU. Whether you are a manifesting aficionado, or have never really given your dreams much attention or importance, or maybe aren’t sure what your dreams are — either way, you will receive so much from this FREE Program.

To give you a taster, here’s Mission Possible Experiment #1:

The way you do things is, in many ways, as important as WHAT you do.

One of my biggest passions and unique abilities is helping driven dreamers and what I often refer to as “closeted creatives” to break pattern and release themselves from status quo expectations and “shoulds”, while quickly creating a life that they truly can’t wait to get-up-and-out-of-bed-for-in-the-morning.

You’ve likely heard this quote before, frequently credited to Albert Einstein: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”

Whoever said it … there’s truth to it.

Making a conscious shift in your routine, even a slight one, can be a way to intentionally shake things up! While routine and consistent approaches can support efficiency and learning new skills … the down-side is that same-old-same-old routines can become monotonous and detrimental, stifling your creative energy and impeding the spontaneity and fun that comes from the unexpected!

These “creature of habit” behaviors can quickly become robotic, unconscious ways of being. For example: Have you even gotten in the car and gone to work, or the gym, or the grocery store, and after arriving realized that you don’t remember the actual drive there?

When you take the same route, time and time again, your mind goes into autopilot. This can happen with your life too. And, especially for us creative thinkers, and innovative dreamers … autopilot gets downright BORING!

So, consider for yourself: What do YOU do, in the same way, virtually every time? What’s YOUR routine?

Step 1) Scan through a typical day in your mind and decide on something that you’ll do differently today – something that breaks up your everyday pattern. Color outside the lines, so to speak, or what’s “typical” for you.

It doesn’t have to earth shattering to be significant.

Whatever it is that you choose to do differently, allow it to be a symbolic welcoming of new patterns and new experiences in your life. Allow it to serve as a small yet powerful demonstration of your personal willingness to embark on a playful adventure into the unknown.

For example, you might:

  • Take a different route to work.
  • Wear an outfit that you never wear.
  • Eat something you’ve never eaten before.
  • If you always eat with others, eat alone – or vice versa.
  • Call someone you haven’t talked to in years.
  • If you have a work-out routine, do something new to work up a sweat today.
  • Exit/enter through a different door than you usually do.
  • Maybe go outside and walk around your home in order to get from one room to another. 🙂
  • You get the idea…

Step 2) Pay attention to how it feels.

Tune in and be the Curious Observer of your own experience. Really notice what comes up for you and write down your observations. (For fun, you might pretend you’re wearing a lab coat while you make your notes.) Do your best to resist judging what you notice. Just notice, while staying curious about what you see, feel, and experience.

Simple AND powerful. Join me for the full 5-day Experiments-in-Action program and by this time next week, you will have uncovered new ideas, possibilities and solutions for your life that you hadn’t seen before … all simply by doing one daily experiment that can be easily done no matter what your schedule!

As promised, here’s the second part of my share with you today. Want to know about the BOLD personal experiment I’m about to embark on in my own life?  Click below to read more…

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

A ‘Live Your Dreams’ Riddle

I have a riddle for you.

Q. What does:

==> a professional pool player,
==> an ultra-marathoner grandma,
==> folks who said “sayonara” to their corporate career to bravely follow their bliss,
==> a wanderlusting dental hygienist who packed it up and became an expat in Costa Rica,
==> a 6-figure business owning work-from-home mom,
==> AND, a she-bought-the-building artist and art studio owner

… all have in common?

A. They are ALL super-powered dream accelerator super-heroines!

They know how to go from “crazy idea” to fulfilled idea.

They know how to accelerate their dreams *despite* FUD (Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt), and despite “obstacles”, and despite limited resources, and despite the opinions of others…

They learned this set of superpowers in The Dream Acceleration Program – and you can too.

==> They can hear things that they couldn’t hear before.

==> They can see things that they couldn’t see before.

==> They can l̶e̶a̶p̶ [correction] buy a building in a single bound … 😆  

==> They can create and live that which they previously thought to be impossible!!

Why? How?

This: www.DreamAccelerationProgram.com They learned the science and artistry of dream acceleration. And they now have the tools and the Dream Team support they need to make. it. happen.

They said yes to this unique, comprehensive, (and afforadable — you’re going to love the price!) coaching program that has elements of laser focused self-study AND has tons of 1-to-1 customized support built in. Designed very intentionally: this magic mix will keep you motivated, engaged, on track, and in full implementation of all the laser-focused content.

Being Captain Obvious for a moment … the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll know what propelled these folks, and so many others, forward so f-a-s-t — and how to do it yourself!

Curious? Click on over to www.dreamaccelerationprogram.com for all the delicious details and get ready to be the next success story. Get ready to create YOUR I-can’t-wait-to-get-up-and-out-of-bed-in-the-morning life – now not later because, can we agree, it sure seems like a silly thing to put off, doesn’t it??

Listen and act on the stir in your heart. Say yes and let’s get started. You have my personal commitment to providing top-notch life-changing content in this program, all with personalized support to quickly and powerfully implement this super-powered material.

Questions? Reach out and ask away!

What Compliments Can Teach You About How to Live Your Dreams

Knowing what you want is one thing.

Taking the action steps to create it, another.

And then actually RECIEVING it … this too is a step all it’s own. And one that can be harder to do than you’d think!

The #1 Misconception about Receiving is this: Receiving is often thought to be a passive step but in actuality, receiving is an ACTIVE step. In truth, there’s nothing passive about it.

This is because, on an energetic level, in order to receive what you desire, you have to align with and allow your vibration to be a match with what you desire. This is known as The Law of Allowing. It’s the principle of having no resistance to receiving what you desire. It means aligning your focus and perspective with allowing the Universe to deliver to you what you have declared you want.

Let’s take it one step further.

Something else that’s so important to understand about this Law: Energetically, you can’t receive and resist at the same time. It’s one or the other. In any given single moment, you are EITHER energetically in a space of receiving your dream OR you are in an energetic space of resisting your dream.

From an energetic standpoint, there is absolutely no gray here.

Perhaps you can relate to this: “Tara, I’ve identified my dreams, and I’ve been working and taking action steps, so why haven’t I realized what I want yet?”

The hard truth is that you can put heart, and time, and money, and energy, and clear intent into identifying what you want, and then put heart, and time, and money, and energy, and clear intent into taking action toward its realization … BUT if, you aren’t ready and willing to receive it and to really allow it in, you’ll be wondering if your dreams got somehow lost in the mail.

The good news: It doesn’t have to be this way!

Start now to strengthen your receiving “muscle”. 

Before you can expect to experience ease and grace in receiving your BIG DREAM, make sure you know how to receive a compliment. 

Grab a friend and do this fun, unique, and surprisingly powerful exercise:

4 Steps to Practice Receiving

  1. Stand with your feet firmly planted on the floor, open body position, arms by your side, palms facing forward. Take a deep breath.
  2. When you’re ready, give a cue to your friend (if possible have more than one person witness you at once), letting them know that you are ready to RECEIVE their compliments.
  3. Allow for at least 3-5 minutes of “receiving time”. (You may wish to set a timer.)
  4. For each and every compliment given, you are to reply simply: “I know.” (If you reply with anything other than “I know”, the compliment-giver is to repeat the compliment, giving you yet another chance to reply with simply “I know”.)

For the purposes of this exercise, saying “thank you” would be you giving a gift back to the person who is giving YOU a compliment. (We all know that gratitude is truly a gift!)

U ROCK

In the spirit of just receiving, reply with a simple “I know” to each and every compliment given – whether you fully agree with it or not.

Take the compliment IN. Know it for that moment.  This will likely feel awkward at first. Be with whatever arises for you and do your best. With practice, you’ll become more RECEPTIVE, and in the process, you’ll increase your readiness to receive *all* that you desire!

Will You Allow Yourself to Receive THIS?

Ready to STOP trying to do it all by yourself? Answer Tara’s 6 Dream Igniting Questions and we’ll schedule you for a complimentary tele-coaching session, exploring together how Create Your Life! can best support YOU in accelerating your own inspired, joyful journey. You’ll be amazed what can happen in just one call!

An Unstructured Time Experiment

unstructured timeI am in month #2 of an Unstructured Time Experiment … a new schedule that limits my availability for client sessions to three weeks per month in order to allow me one week per month of unstructured time. Not time “off” per se … I work, but with an I-can-do-what-I-want-when-I-want-where-I-want-with-who-I-want-and-not-need-to-watch-the-clock approach.

There’s a gradual transition underway before this new schedule will be in full effect.  To honor my agreements with those who were scheduled prior to my “new” schedule kicking in to gear, I still have a few client sessions during my Unstructured Week – but only one day during the week, is this the case.

When the idea was first “seeded” and I started to consider putting this into place … I had *ALL KINDS* of resistance rise to the surface!  All kinds of “not enough” stories and who-do-you-think-you-are questions.

Can you afford it, Tara? I mean, really … Who are YOU to decide it’s ok to be less available for new clients? And if prospective new clients have to wait, sometimes 3-4 weeks for a Dream Discovery session, you’re going to miss the chance to work with them … They’ll go find another coach! They won’t *wait* that long. Pfft!  AND – with a team to pay and your expenses being higher than ever, you really have no business even *thinking* about doing such a thing. Utterly arrogant. It’ll be financial sabotage…. And what will you DO with this time exactly? Follow creative inspiration?!? You’re not sure exactly?? Maybe you’ll organize your office? Go to the gym every day that week? Sit in cafes? Pfft! Sounds like playing hooky to me, Queen Tara. An all around terrible idea!

And on and on it went …

But I figured, what the heck, I’ll give it a few months.  I can always go back to my “old” schedule.

In full transparency, my “client time schedule” over the 10 years I’ve been in biz has changed over time, in phases …

Phase I: Anytime, 7 days a week, as long as I’m not sleeping.

Phase II: Monday – Saturday, as long as I’m not sleeping.

Phase III: M-F, as long as I’m not sleeping.

Phase IV: M-F, 9am-6pm.

Phase V: M-F, 9am-6pm, except Wednesdays which start at 11am.

Phase VI: Monday-Thursday, 9am-6pm, except 11am start on Wednesdays, and Fridays available for VIP Days.

Phase VII: Tuesday – Thursday, with 11am start on Wednesdays, and Fridays available for VIP Days.

And now …

Phase VIII: Tuesday-Thursday, with 11am start on Wednesdays and Fridays available for VIP Days, 3 weeks out of the month….

And so far so good!

I’m really learning how important Unstructured Time is for me.  How it allows for creative ideas and inspiration to bubble up. How sometimes I want to write, and sometimes I want to organize, and sometime I want to collaborate, and sometimes I want to play, and sometimes I want to revamp an old something into a new something, and sometimes I want to be in nature, and sometimes I want to be in a public library or a museum, and sometimes I want to take a nap, and sometimes I want to wake up early, and sometime I want to go to bed late.

Tara
Here are just a few of the results of my two-month Unstructured “Week 4” Time:

  • Revamped and restructured an old program into a new and up-leveled more streamlined version that better serves my clients and my team.
  • Followed an in-the-shower inspiration … connected with a colleague and pitched a collaboration idea and, after just a 1-hour “on fire” phone call, wheels are now in motion for a very fun “on the stage” event that we foresee will be duplicated, city after city…
  • Reflected and reviewed how I’m spending my time and as a result have reached out and started interviewing to hire a new Create Your Life! team member to take a time-consuming task off my plate.
  • I had an idea for a brand new business all together and conversation is underway with an interested partner.
  • The closet in my bedroom is organized like never before which makes getting dressed everyday a delight.
  • Plans for a dream trip is in the works.
  • Hot baths in the middle of day, because I can. (And with more frequent gym-time, what used to be a luxury feels more like a need.)
  • Leisurely lunch dates.
  • Long walks with my pup….

And, for the record, NONE of my fears have proven true. Revenue has gone up, not down. I’ve even started to wonder what Phases 9 & 10 might look like!

Thanks for reading. I felt like sharing. And I had the time to do so.

I’d love to hear from you … What does reading this inspire for YOU?

My hope is that you too might look at new ways to schedule your time, allowing for more Unstructured Time and the emergence of a new kind of productivity in your life and your work.

Carpe diem.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Pregnant With A Dream: Meeting Lisa Nichols

Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?  Now, I don’t mean a baby – but rather a dream that you KNOW you are meant to bring to life, to birth something that *if you don’t* you’ll always wonder what could have been…

In the words of Marianne Williamson “Each of us is pregnant with a better version of ourselves.”

So true.  I know first-hand what it feels like to have dreams that scare the bejesus out of me, and to simultaneously know that I *MUST* bring them to life, despite my sometimes overwhelming fear. That’s why I wrote the book, Are You Pregnant With a Dream?

As life coach and founder of Create Your Life!, I know what it takes to go from Fear to Freedom, and I have coached hundreds, soon to be thousands, on the magic and momentum that takes hold when my 9-step Dream Acceleration(TM) Process gets activated.

In September 2013, after watching a YouTube video of Ms. Lisa Nichols speaking (she was in the movie The Secret, a Chicken Soup for the Soul author, founder of Motivating the Masses, and so much more…) a dream was activated in me: I wanted to meet her.  Not in a celebrity-crazed-kind-of-way.  But in a … this-woman-is-powerful-and-the-real-deal-and-I-feel-absolutely-compelled-to-do-whatever-I need-to-to-meet-and-talk-to-her kind of way.  And, proof to the power of a dream-in-action, just two short months later, it happened! 

Here are some “selfies” that Lisa Nichols and I took after a little heart-to-heart.

(Read more on what’s extra-special about THIS photo below.)

And here’s one of her working her magic on stage:

A quick aside about that second photo of us standing in front of the Lisa Nichols poster:

I noticed that, in the poster, she has braces on her teeth – and I asked her about it.  Now, really, do you think she could have had that photoshopped out before blowing it up into a great big stand-on-it’s-own poster?  Shoot. Let’s be honest … I would’ve!

Of course she could have!  BUT – she had braces when the photo was taken, so that’s what’s in the picture.  How’s THAT for a little window into how *REAL* this woman is.  🙂

It was a true honor and a privilege to not only meet her, but even more … after our off-stage connection, there was a moment (during the height of her guiding the room through a mind-blowing belief transformation process), that I SAW her.  And – she saw me see her.

People were shouting and crying and doing all kinds of wild, free and full self-expression … an experience that left every person in that room forever changed …

She did what only the best speakers do: she got herself out of the way.  And in that moment, I SAW HER, with tears in her eyes, as the room was divided into our small groups doing the exercise she had given us to do.  She and I locked eyes.  It’s was a pregnant pause.  Beautiful beyond words.  One that I will never forget it.

Thank you, Lisa Nichols. Thank you Universe of Possibility.  It’s good to be alive.  It’s not always easy – but it’s so so good…  We are absolutely in this together.

So, again, may I ask … Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.

Love and blessings,

Tara

Basement & Bathtub Mojo

Joy to you!

Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!

bathYep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!

I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.

Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!)  My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower.  Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!

So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub.  It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh…  A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.

How ’bout you?  What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?

Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate?  And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?

Do You Dream of Time OFF?

Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!

Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?

vacaWhen was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?

Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work.  Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month!  Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!

Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now.  Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?

Notice: What’s coming up for you?  Are you hearing yourself say, for example:

  • “When I’m done with this project then maybe I’ll look at my calendar.”
  • “I don’t have time, with my family commitments and all..”
  • “I haven’t worked hard enough to really deserve time off.”
  • “There’s no money in the budget for a vacation.”
  • “Time off will only set me back and create more work.”
  • “I would love to but…(fill in the blank)”

Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …

It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your healthkiddie pool and well-being.

We *all* need time off!  And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!

Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.

If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!?  Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?

Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)

Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation!  Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair.  It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours!  Enjoy!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,