A Two-Minute Reality Check: How to Go Beyond Realistic & Live Your Impossible Dreams
A Two-Minute Reality Check: How to Go Beyond Realistic & Live Your Impossible Dreams
I have a riddle for you.
Q. What does:
==> a professional pool player,
==> an ultra-marathoner grandma,
==> folks who said “sayonara” to their corporate career to bravely follow their bliss,
==> a wanderlusting dental hygienist who packed it up and became an expat in Costa Rica,
==> a 6-figure business owning work-from-home mom,
==> AND, a she-bought-the-building artist and art studio owner
… all have in common?
A. They are ALL super-powered dream accelerator super-heroines!
They know how to go from “crazy idea” to fulfilled idea.
They know how to accelerate their dreams *despite* FUD (Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt), and despite “obstacles”, and despite limited resources, and despite the opinions of others…
They learned this set of superpowers in The Dream Acceleration Program™ – and you can too.
==> They can hear things that they couldn’t hear before.
==> They can see things that they couldn’t see before.
==> They can l̶e̶a̶p̶ [correction] buy a building in a single bound … 😆
==> They can create and live that which they previously thought to be impossible!!
This: www.DreamAccelerationProgram.com They learned the science and artistry of dream acceleration. And they now have the tools and the Dream Team support they need to make. it. happen.
They said yes to this unique, comprehensive, (and afforadable — you’re going to love the price!) coaching program that has elements of laser focused self-study AND has tons of 1-to-1 customized support built in. Designed very intentionally: this magic mix will keep you motivated, engaged, on track, and in full implementation of all the laser-focused content.
Being Captain Obvious for a moment … the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll know what propelled these folks, and so many others, forward so f-a-s-t — and how to do it yourself!
Curious? Click on over to www.dreamaccelerationprogram.com for all the delicious details and get ready to be the next success story. Get ready to create YOUR I-can’t-wait-to-get-up-and-out-of-bed-in-the-morning life – now not later because, can we agree, it sure seems like a silly thing to put off, doesn’t it??
Listen and act on the stir in your heart. Say yes and let’s get started. You have my personal commitment to providing top-notch life-changing content in this program, all with personalized support to quickly and powerfully implement this super-powered material.
Questions? Reach out and ask away!
How do you know if a Fear is real or fake? It can sometimes be very difficult to tell the difference!
According to the American Psychological Association, 95% of people do not take action on their dreams because of fear. And – 98% of the fear is unfounded.
At Create Your Life!, we call this a Fauxbia. … “f-a-u-x-b-i-a”.
Faux meaning “fake”… a “fake fear”.
Did you know that fake fears … or unfounded fears … are what prevent 98% of the 95% of people who do not move their dreams into action?
That means that the beliefs that are holding you back – the ones that are generating that fear – are made up! But rather than change or question these Beliefs (which, by the way, are just thoughts that have been thought over and over again), what’s commonly done instead is finding all kinds of practical, rational, reasons not to act.
In other words, we use our rationality as a way to then support our limiting beliefs.
See yourself in any of this? According to the stats, the likelihood is YES!
And it’s a domino effect from there – inaction creates symptoms like procrastination, avoidance, missing that meeting or phone call, not following through on an assignment, rationalizing why things are good enough, or why the timing is wrong, or being immobilized by perfectionism, or thinking things through to the point of “analysis paralysis”. All of these responses are forms of fear’s resistance and they’re also the breeding ground for feelings of frustration, anger, anxiety, loneliness, feeling stuck, victimized, in a place of lack, envious of others… Yuck.
Here’s an alternative to all that…
The key to being bigger than your fear is learning how to integrate it – and ideally even welcome it. This learning process is profoundly empowering and it’s a life-long practice.
Believe it or not, fear can be your friend. Rather than being afraid of your fear, what if you were curious about it instead? Truth is that fear, if welcomed, can propel you forward. It can inspire you to consistently expand beyond those old out-dated beliefs about what you’re really capable of.
To s-t-r-e-t-c-h beyond fear, takes courage! It helps to remember that brave people are NOT without fear. If they were, what in the world would they need bravery for?!?
Fear can be managed and it can be minimized, but it’s not going to disappear altogether. Your dreams and goals are inviting you to step into BEING a bolder, braver, more expansive version of yourself.
The more you shy away from your fear, the more power and influence fear will have over YOU. So, rather than investing your precious energy in fruitless efforts to hide from your fears, pretend they’re not there, or wish them away, why not invite Fear in for a cup of tea. (Camomile, perhaps?)
The following 3-step process is an adaptation of a technique that, in psychological circles, is known as “flooding.” It is very effective in treating even the most severe phobias – or, in this case, “fauxbias”. 🙂
Done in full, this is a foolproof way to s-t-r-e-t-c-h beyond your fears and take action on even your most daring dreams.
You’ll need: pen, paper, and a willingness to write it out.
Before you can stretch beyond your fear, you must know what IT is! Do you know what you’re afraid OF?
Finding the vocabulary to name your fear is a courageous step all its own. Until you bring your awareness to what you are afraid of, that vague yet immobilizing fear will be in your driver’s seat. By naming your fear, you reconnect to your power, because now you see what’s in your way.
On a blank page, ask yourself, “What might happen if I really go for my dream (in that full-blown leap of faith kind of way)?” “What is the worst-case scenario?” and write out your answers in full. Give your fears an uncensored voice, getting it all out on the page. While this may seem like an enormous undertaking, and of course it takes as long as it takes, I’d honestly be surprised if you spend more than 30 minutes on this.
When you’re done writing, read it out loud, without interruption, ideally to someone you trust. Once you’ve finished, have the person listening ask you, “Are you ready to take action, despite your fears?” Tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth!
If your answer is anything but a full-fledged “Yes!” then read it again, the whole thing. And again. And again. As many times as it takes, each time answering the question at the end: “Are you ready to take action, despite your fears?“
Once you’ve determined that, yes, you are indeed ready to take action, despite your fears, then identify one or two clear, challenging-but-doable next steps that you WILL take to move in the direction of your dreams.
There’s no longer any reason to stay stuck. This 3-part exercise will get you unstuck, helping you move from a place of fear and doubt, into the clarity of awareness about WHAT you’re afraid of…and then back into aligned action.
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Your dreams will thank you!
First come, first served, so do respond right away before your fearful Inner Naysayer successfully talks you out of why you shouldn’t do this for yourself.
Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream? Now, I don’t mean a baby – but rather a dream that you KNOW you are meant to bring to life, to birth something that *if you don’t* you’ll always wonder what could have been…
In the words of Marianne Williamson “Each of us is pregnant with a better version of ourselves.”
So true. I know first-hand what it feels like to have dreams that scare the bejesus out of me, and to simultaneously know that I *MUST* bring them to life, despite my sometimes overwhelming fear. That’s why I wrote the book, Are You Pregnant With a Dream?
As life coach and founder of Create Your Life!, I know what it takes to go from Fear to Freedom, and I have coached hundreds, soon to be thousands, on the magic and momentum that takes hold when my 9-step Dream Acceleration(TM) Process gets activated.
In September 2013, after watching a YouTube video of Ms. Lisa Nichols speaking (she was in the movie The Secret, a Chicken Soup for the Soul author, founder of Motivating the Masses, and so much more…) a dream was activated in me: I wanted to meet her. Not in a celebrity-crazed-kind-of-way. But in a … this-woman-is-powerful-and-the-real-deal-and-I-feel-absolutely-compelled-to-do-whatever-I need-to-to-meet-and-talk-to-her kind of way. And, proof to the power of a dream-in-action, just two short months later, it happened!
Here are some “selfies” that Lisa Nichols and I took after a little heart-to-heart.
(Read more on what’s extra-special about THIS photo below.)
And here’s one of her working her magic on stage:
A quick aside about that second photo of us standing in front of the Lisa Nichols poster:
I noticed that, in the poster, she has braces on her teeth – and I asked her about it. Now, really, do you think she could have had that photoshopped out before blowing it up into a great big stand-on-it’s-own poster? Shoot. Let’s be honest … I would’ve!
Of course she could have! BUT – she had braces when the photo was taken, so that’s what’s in the picture. How’s THAT for a little window into how *REAL* this woman is. 🙂
It was a true honor and a privilege to not only meet her, but even more … after our off-stage connection, there was a moment (during the height of her guiding the room through a mind-blowing belief transformation process), that I SAW her. And – she saw me see her.
People were shouting and crying and doing all kinds of wild, free and full self-expression … an experience that left every person in that room forever changed …
She did what only the best speakers do: she got herself out of the way. And in that moment, I SAW HER, with tears in her eyes, as the room was divided into our small groups doing the exercise she had given us to do. She and I locked eyes. It’s was a pregnant pause. Beautiful beyond words. One that I will never forget it.
Thank you, Lisa Nichols. Thank you Universe of Possibility. It’s good to be alive. It’s not always easy – but it’s so so good… We are absolutely in this together.
So, again, may I ask … Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.
Love and blessings,
Joy to you!
Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!
Yep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!
I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.
Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!) My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower. Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!
So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub. It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh… A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.
How ’bout you? What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?
Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate? And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?
Do You Dream of Time OFF?
Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!
Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?
When was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?
Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work. Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month! Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!
Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now. Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?
Notice: What’s coming up for you? Are you hearing yourself say, for example:
Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …
It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your health and well-being.
We *all* need time off! And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!
Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.
If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!? Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?
Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)
Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation! Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair. It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours! Enjoy!
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,