No Marketing Monkeyshine

What have YOU been dreaming about lately? 

As of late, I’ve been working on a dream project of my own which I’ll be telling you about soon. (I’m a lifelong student of my own dreamwork.) I really can’t wait to reveal more!

Soon. But first things first:

A few months ago, I shared about the launch of my ground-breaking, 6-month, *private support included* Dream Acceleration Program™ 2.0 — All for a stunningly affordable price. There’s been a great response to the program. With very little marketing, the word spread thanks in large part to word-of-mouth and referrals from clients and colleagues alike.

And as of today, we’ve got 13 open spots available.

Now, while old school marketing would just make up a number, I assure you there’s no “marketing monkeyshine” happening here. (Credit to a sassy, southern friend of mine for introducing me to this phrase.)kid-monkey

Please hear me: I’m not just “opening up 5 slots in my calendar…” [eye roll] My team and I have assessed the legit space we have available in the calendar, and because there’s so much 1-to-1 personalized support sewn into the fabric of this program, the woman-hours available are limited. Real talk.

So, as much as I *KNOW* the good that this program will do for your life, for life – and the sooner you start the sooner you’ll know what I’m talking about – my team and I have identified what we can handle and when the spaces are full they’re full.

Something I’ve consistently heard from folks joining the program is how unique it is to find a comprehensive and affordable coaching program, with elements of self-study but that also has tons of 1-to-1 customized support built in. I designed it this way very intentionally, because it’s the magic mix that keeps people motivated, engaged, on track, and in full implementation of all the juicy content.

So, please do visit www.dreamaccelerationprogram.com to learn The Dream Acceleration Program™ 2.0 details and get ready to create YOUR own I-can’t-wait-to-get-up-and-out-of-bed-in-the-morning life.

You have my personal commitment to providing top-notch life-changing content in this program, and all with the personalized support needed to quickly and powerfully implement the material.

Have a look at this awesomeness and grab your seat today, ok?Tara Sage Steeves

And of course, reach out right away if you have any questions.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
sig-tss-trans

 

 

Dream Acceleration Master Coach & Founder of Create Your Life!

A “rantifesto” about MISTAKES

 

Tara Sage SteevesMaybe it’s got something to do with me being 40 years young. Or maybe it’s the culmination of decades of metaphysical searching and psychological study. I’m pretty confident the thousands of people I’ve coached and/or “workshopped” over my 11+ years in biz has at least got something to do with it. Maybe it’s all the listening and personal stories that I’ve heard. It’s also likely thanks to the many cross-cultural experiences I’ve had and the traveling I’ve done…

Whatever the case, I AM SO *OVER* THE WHOLE PARADIGM OF CONCEPTUALIZING THINGS IN TERMS OF MISTAKES. (Except maybe if you break it down to “mis-take”. As in, simply take another take…)

But otherwise, “mistake” and “wrong” are basically synonymous, and I’m done with that. I truly don’t see choices made – especially after the fact – as either right or wrong anymore. I’m over attempts at fitting the things I’ve done, and the changes I’ve made, into rigid little judgement-filled, “should” and “shouldn’t” categories of regret.

Are YOU?

And, oh, I’ve done *plenty* of “oops” stuff in my life. (How do you think I got so wise? Smile!)

Trust me, I have taken many-a-turn down streets that I backed the heck out of soon after (the one-way kind), and others that were maze-like detours that took some serious navigation to find my way.

But nonetheless, I have grown to love my mis-takes. I mean it.

And I’ve learned that shame need not be a badge you wear as proof that you learned a lesson. Seriously.

If anything, wear a great big bright and colorful badge of self-forgiveness, self-love, personal freedom, and a sense of humor. That is, in my opinion, the best possible outcome of any “mis-take”.

Wrong turn? Big whoopin’ deal. Really. I mean, so what? Now you know. Choices made were made from the level of understanding you had at the time. And when you know better you do better. So, once you know => time to hire a stellar life coach and head in a new direction. [shameless plug I’m not sorry for Smile!]

And, be honest: More likely than not, it probably wasn’t ALL “wrong”, so don’t throw it all out the window unless that’s truly where it belongs. More likely, is that you now have a whole lot more detail and nuanced clarity about what’s a fit for you from here. This is great news. Now go make it happen.

And while you’re at it, don’t hold toooo TIGHT to the new vision, because unnerving as it is, this’ll likely evolve and change too. As long as you’re alive you’re going to continue to grow and change and it only makes sense that your vision will change with you. Once you get wherever “there” is, there will always be another “there” to get to. There’s no guarantee that what fits ‘just right’ NOW won’t be something you’ll outgrow later. (Sorry/You’re welcome. Smile!)

And if that happens, it’s just time for (yet another) do-over. I’ve personally coached people ages 21-74. It is NEVER too late to say this is ‘not it’.

From my perspective, this is what being alive is all about. Our world is the laboratory and you and I are the (sometimes mad) scientists. The more lightness and kindness you bring to your experiment called LIFE and its inevitable moment-by-moment unfoldings, the better. Well, that is, assuming you want joyful results.

Please understand: I am not in any way minimizing how difficult the process of moving through such awareness can be, and what’s really involved on the twisty-turny road to playful-living, self-love and self-forgiveness. Having been there, helps me coach others through it. No text book I know of teaches this. I know first-hand how “recalculations” can have some dramatic practical-level and relational-level impact (a.k.a. be extremely messy).

BUT – it’s still all just a big experiment! There’s no eventual “arrival” in the seat of it’s-all-done-now perfection. Until maybe when you’re dead. But you are alive – and so am I – and that means we are all meaning-making, change-making, improvisational manifesters and creators-of-our-own-experience. And not-a-one of us is 100% certain about what the heck we’re doing, or what exactly will result from it.

It’s about being fully alive in the BECOMING.

It’s about living full out.

It’s about going for your dreams, no matter what.

It’s about being a work in progress every minute of every day.

It’s about putting fear in it’s place (in the trunk, not at the steering wheel).

And ultimately it’s about you being YOU because, frankly, you are the world’s leading expert on your heart’s deepest, and evolving, desires.

Be your best and brightest version of you, as often as possible. Cliche as it may be, dance like noone’s watching – and dance like everyone’s watching, because really: who cares. I believe it’s also about leaving a legacy of as much JOY and good juju as you can. If for no grand mission-oriented reason, do it because it’s nice to be remembered well.

Rant over. Thank you. Feel free to take the microphone from here. Smile!

“Nice” vs. “Kind”: How These Words Can Change The Course of Your Life

I’ve always cringed at the word “nice”. Here’s why:

There’s a very important (and subtle) difference between being “nice” and being “kind” and the difference can really set you up for two VERY distinctly different life path trajectories.

My problem with “nice” is boiled down to the fact that the focus of “nice” is on people pleasing. See, “nice” is dependent on someone else to give you the “nice” stamp of approval. “She’s so nice.” “He’s a nice person.” Others must decide if you’re nice – or not nice.  And since a consensus is VERY unlikely … this can lead to a lifetime of falling short, never officially earning the “nice” stamp.

It’s so very Santa Claus.  It’s time to stop living for presents and avoiding coal, don’t you think?  Nice/not nice is a framework and a mindset that risks self-sacrifice, martyrdom, and always living for the approval of others in order to feel good about yourself and your choices.

be-kind“Kind”, on the other hand, is a character trait. You can claim it, intend it, practice it, adopt it. “Kindness” is an act, an extension of being kind. And, hey, someone can appreciate an act of kindness – or not. That’s up to them. But, either way, no consensus is needed for you to be kind.

The short of it is this:  “Kind” lives in the HEART, and “nice” lives in the MINDS OF OTHERS.

What do you think? Is there a difference between “nice’ and “kind”? If so, what is it and does it matter? Do you feel that one invites a different way of living than the other? How so? Are YOU kind? Are YOU nice? How do you know?

Pregnant With A Dream: Meeting Lisa Nichols

Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?  Now, I don’t mean a baby – but rather a dream that you KNOW you are meant to bring to life, to birth something that *if you don’t* you’ll always wonder what could have been…

In the words of Marianne Williamson “Each of us is pregnant with a better version of ourselves.”

So true.  I know first-hand what it feels like to have dreams that scare the bejesus out of me, and to simultaneously know that I *MUST* bring them to life, despite my sometimes overwhelming fear. That’s why I wrote the book, Are You Pregnant With a Dream?

As life coach and founder of Create Your Life!, I know what it takes to go from Fear to Freedom, and I have coached hundreds, soon to be thousands, on the magic and momentum that takes hold when my 9-step Dream Acceleration(TM) Process gets activated.

In September 2013, after watching a YouTube video of Ms. Lisa Nichols speaking (she was in the movie The Secret, a Chicken Soup for the Soul author, founder of Motivating the Masses, and so much more…) a dream was activated in me: I wanted to meet her.  Not in a celebrity-crazed-kind-of-way.  But in a … this-woman-is-powerful-and-the-real-deal-and-I-feel-absolutely-compelled-to-do-whatever-I need-to-to-meet-and-talk-to-her kind of way.  And, proof to the power of a dream-in-action, just two short months later, it happened! 

Here are some “selfies” that Lisa Nichols and I took after a little heart-to-heart.

(Read more on what’s extra-special about THIS photo below.)

And here’s one of her working her magic on stage:

A quick aside about that second photo of us standing in front of the Lisa Nichols poster:

I noticed that, in the poster, she has braces on her teeth – and I asked her about it.  Now, really, do you think she could have had that photoshopped out before blowing it up into a great big stand-on-it’s-own poster?  Shoot. Let’s be honest … I would’ve!

Of course she could have!  BUT – she had braces when the photo was taken, so that’s what’s in the picture.  How’s THAT for a little window into how *REAL* this woman is.  🙂

It was a true honor and a privilege to not only meet her, but even more … after our off-stage connection, there was a moment (during the height of her guiding the room through a mind-blowing belief transformation process), that I SAW her.  And – she saw me see her.

People were shouting and crying and doing all kinds of wild, free and full self-expression … an experience that left every person in that room forever changed …

She did what only the best speakers do: she got herself out of the way.  And in that moment, I SAW HER, with tears in her eyes, as the room was divided into our small groups doing the exercise she had given us to do.  She and I locked eyes.  It’s was a pregnant pause.  Beautiful beyond words.  One that I will never forget it.

Thank you, Lisa Nichols. Thank you Universe of Possibility.  It’s good to be alive.  It’s not always easy – but it’s so so good…  We are absolutely in this together.

So, again, may I ask … Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.

Love and blessings,

Tara

What’s YOUR Intention?

I’m so moved, and want to share something a client of mine posted today on Facebook:

“I met a woman this week who started each call we had with a warm welcome & then proceeded to tell me what her INTENT was for the call…have to say, it caught me off guard but I was extremely impressed! I believe, when you come in to contact with people & they raise the bar, my goal is to rise as well!

As I was on my way to work today I was talking with my husband & he says so baby how’s your morning and I replied “horrible horrible horrible!!” And he asked why, my reply…cuz I don’t wanna go to work! As we ended the call I heard the words of Tara Sage Steeves asking “So Tikisha, what is your intent?” I have to say, it called me to attention! Regardless of what I DONT want to do, the fact remained that I had to come to work. If I set my intent on my day being horrible x3, guess what kinda day I’m gonna have?! YUP horrible x3!

So I re-focused & told myself that MY INTENT for this day is to be nothing less than my best! Realizing that greatness doesn’t happen when you see your name in lights, it happens when you clearly define your INTENT TO BE GREAT WITH NO LIGHTS!”

SO POW-ER-FUL!!  And as an added note, I have no doubt, sooner than she thinks, her name *will* be in lights.

What’s YOUR Intention?  Post below.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara  🙂

 

 

Basement & Bathtub Mojo

Joy to you!

Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!

bathYep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!

I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.

Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!)  My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower.  Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!

So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub.  It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh…  A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.

How ’bout you?  What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?

Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate?  And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?

Do You Dream of Time OFF?

Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!

Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?

vacaWhen was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?

Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work.  Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month!  Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!

Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now.  Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?

Notice: What’s coming up for you?  Are you hearing yourself say, for example:

  • “When I’m done with this project then maybe I’ll look at my calendar.”
  • “I don’t have time, with my family commitments and all..”
  • “I haven’t worked hard enough to really deserve time off.”
  • “There’s no money in the budget for a vacation.”
  • “Time off will only set me back and create more work.”
  • “I would love to but…(fill in the blank)”

Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …

It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your healthkiddie pool and well-being.

We *all* need time off!  And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!

Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.

If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!?  Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?

Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)

Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation!  Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair.  It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours!  Enjoy!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Fear does NOT want you to read this …

Fear does NOT want you to read this … and certainly not to the end!

That’s because I’m going to share it’s best kept SECRET, so that the next time fear shows itself and threatens to de-rail your dreams, you will be prepared for it’s savvy powers of persuasion.

Fear is TOO OFTEN victorious.

Fear too often “wins” because many people would sooner share their worst fear with the mailman before they share what they dream of! Dreams are often thought to be private, sometimes even under lock and key … and because of THIS, showing up at the starting line can sometimes feel like the riskiest part. And for this reason alone, far too many don’t even begin!

Oooo, I know…. Fear sure knows how to get to YOU!  Often, all it takes is a few words and you surrender:

“Oh, be realistic!”
“That’s impossible.”
“You’ll never succeed.”
“Be reasonable … I mean, really.”
“Don’t set your sights too high.”
“Who do you think you ARE?”
“Why rock the boat?”
“Imagine what so-and-so will say…”
“Oh, things are good enough.”
“You don’t have enough (fill in the blank) for that.”
And the list goes on…

Just like that, any ONE of those statements can send you right back to your repetitive reality, to living your ‘default life’ (a.k.a. what’s familiar). No matter how miserable you may be … hey, at least you know what to expect, right?

Wrong. Not okay. This logic and belief in limitation really and truly makes my heart hurt.

Because, I know there’s another way, and I know there’s a wiser, braver, bolder part of YOU – the part of you that, even in spite of fear, believes in possibility despite “the odds” and believes in the inherent wisdom of your heart.  Even if only on occasion.  You get glimpses of a higher truth – which more than likely then kicks your fears back into overdrive … and round and round it goes!

It’s crazy-making!  And fear can be SO convincing – believe me, I know!

Because, you see …

(drum roll…)

… THAT’S its genius!  It knows exactly what will leave you feeling defenseless. It knows exactly where your weak spots are (because fear IS your weak spot) and it is MASTERFUL at scaring you right back into your “safe zone” of “good enough” – or worse – what I call “comfortable misery.”

AND – it has stamina!

For example, if, by chance, one of those first statements don’t do the trick to have you resigned to “reality”, Fear has a Plan B waiting in the wings: It’ll serve up an abundance of so-called “evidence.”

You know what I mean … a history lesson, a probability quiz, reminders about the expectations of others and the “rules” of social norms that you “should” follow … It’ll even dredge up that story about that-time-when-you-did-that-thing (and then felt like a fool or a failure)… and why you should do everything in your power to avoid risking something like that happening again!

Oh yes, fear can have you paralyzed in no time.  It can EVEN trick you into thinking it’s on your SIDE!  That is, if you’re not prepared…

That’s why it’s absolutely critical to remember: Just ‘cuz it’s persuasive and persistent, doesn’t mean it’s True!

Because the Truth with a capital “T” is that possibility ABOUNDS and your dreams are simply waiting for YOU to engage … ya know, instead of running away or running for a broom to sweep it back under the rug!

See, what’s *so* critical to understand is that your dream BECOMES possible the moment you declare it to be!  You got that?  Worth repeating: What’s so critical and what I really want you to “get” is that your dreams become possible for you the moment you DECLARE that that they are!  (Yes, you really ARE that powerful.)  

Have YOU mistakenly filed your dreams under “impossible”?  (It’s okay. You can re-file them.)

www.DreamAccelerationProgram.com  

In the face of fear, it can be *so* easy to feel resigned and hopeless about your dreams. It’s easy to feel scattered and overwhelmed, or “too busy” to STOP and take an honest inventory of your precious life passing you by…

YET – the sooner you bravely do so, and set yourself up with the right support, the sooner you’ll LIVE them.  It’s that simple really.

Here’s what fear WON’T tell you…

–> What fear won’t tell you, and what it wants more than anything to KEEP you from seeing … is the cost of NOT going for it.

–> What’s the price you’re paying by NOT investing in your dream(s)?

–> How is it impacting you to put off the fulfillment of your heart’s deepest desires?

–> What is the cost – and the RISK – of always wondering?

–> What’s the cost – and the RISK – of waiting … another 6 months? Year? Another 5 years? 10 years?

Can you afford THAT?!?  Fear fears THIS question most of all … because it knows the answer is NO.

No matter how big, small, silly or vague you may think your dream is, it is time for YOU to start right now, from exactly where you ARE, to step up, believe in possibility, acknowledge your heart’s wisdom, celebrate the excitement of the journey ahead, and STOP wondering and waiting for “someday”.

When will you decide that NOW is the right time?

Secure your seat today with just $97

If you are tired of FEAR driving your life or slowing down your progress, join us and get ready for all that to change.

I can’t wait to get coaching with YOU!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,


PS – The link to reserve one of the last remaining spots now and put yourself on an accelerated path to living YOUR dreams is: www.DreamAccelerationProgram.com  After you register, feel free to contact me directly to schedule a complimentary call to be sure that this program is a really good fit for you. If after we talk, you decide that it’s not, I am happy to refund your money.

Dear Dream, I’m ready to deepen our relationship

How would you describe your ideal mate? Perhaps you’ve thought of an image of that person; someone in good health, tall/short, nice smile, athletic, active, generous, social, a dancer, a biker, a skier – the list could go on, right? Or maybe you don’t have a list of your ideal mate’s physical characteristics or interests but certainly you know how you want the interaction within your relationship to be and, more importantly, you likely know how you want to FEEL in this relationship.

dear dream

You might desire your relationship to be open, honest, caring and loving. You want to FEEL cared for, loved, heard, respected, trusted, supported, appreciated and understood. Because, let’s face it, feeling these things in relationships feels good!

Now, what if I asked you about your relationship with your dream?

  • How would you describe your dream?
  • What does it look like to you?
  • How would you describe your “relationship” with your dream?
  • How do you FEEL about your dream?
  • What does it means to you in your life?

The clearer you get on your CURRENT relationship to your dream, the greater awareness you will have to take your relationship with your dream to the next level!

One topic that is explored at a much deeper level during the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program is about relationships. We all know what it means to nurture our relationships with others, right? Well, during the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program, to shine a light on and become more aware of our relationship with our dreams, we imagine switching places with our dreams and what it might feel like to be a dream of yours, in a relationship with you.

I believe in my heart of hearts,

that your dreams are the voice of your soul,

and listening is your gift to the world.

As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. So consider your dream’s perspective:

  • What would it be like to BE your dream in a relationship with YOU?
  • How are you treating your dream right now?
  • Does your dream feel well cared for?
  • Does your dream feel ignored, disregarded, smothered or maybe downright unappreciated?
  • Does your dream feel like no one believes in it or trusts it?
  • Does your dream feel loved?

tango dancers

What are you noticing? Honesty can only serve you here so just notice whatever comes up for you.

You are in a relationship with your dreams – right now. It’s the truth!

These questions are not to make you feel bad, but to shine a light on your CURRENT relationship with your dream and raise your awareness around this. It’s about nurturing your RELATIONSHIP with your dreams…giving them love and attention, and easing up on all the anxiety and doubts that may otherwise surround your relationship.

And, this is not to say that you won’t have doubts or that you need to deny or ignore your hesitations and concerns. But rather…that you begin to just Raise Your Awareness about who you are BEING in your relationship to what it is that you desire.

Another point that is stated many times throughout the Dream Acceleration™ Program is that we always create from the present moment … like the red star on a trail map. You must first identify where you ARE before you can get where you want to go.

As you get more acquainted and familiar with YOUR PART in the relationship, and consciously put *more* attention and energy there…such wonder and possibility awaits!

Bravely DECLARE that NOW is your “someday”

– simply because YOU said so!

Your Next Dream Relationship Building Step:

Are you feeling like your relationship with your dream could use a facilitator? Does your dream desire MORE of a relationship with YOU? Are you ready to stop playing small and transform your relationship with your dream for more abundance, well-being, and freedom? Get your Dream Realization Journey on track: Reach out to Tara personally (with “Dream Discovery session” in the header) and as my GIFT to you, we’ll schedule a time to connect for a complimentary tele-coaching session and explore together how I might support you in accelerating your own inspired journey. You’ll be amazed what can happen in just one call together!

Do you realize your dream risks?

Nyc dancers

Joy to You!

As Dream Realization Coach and “Dream Queen,” I want to share a dream of my own – AND a special Dream Acceleration™ Exercise to support YOUR dream realization process with a make-it-real Dream Risk Assessment.

The photo on the right is of a recent dance “field trip” to NYC with some of my Providence Salsa Family.

We had a BLAST – after a 3-hour lesson in the afternoon with world-class teachers, we found our way to a Salsa Social at night that was AWESOME. Talk about energy! Whew! By the end of the night, my feet where aching, I was drenched in sweat, and my heart was SO happy.

Let the record show: I love ‘lil Rhody.

And every few months, I find an excuse to go to NYC to get my Big Apple fix, which is something that can continue … BUT lately, I’m finding that the more I go, the less I want to leave!

I’ve done the Risk Assessment Exercise (see below for details) about my budding dream to live in NYC, and I’ll be honest, my list in column #1 is L-O-N-G!  But since I think I’ll always wonder if I don’t (column #2) … I’m starting to take steps to plant seeds and find out more about what would need to happen to make the move. In case there was any doubt … know that we – you and I – are absolutely in this ongoing dream realization process together.

Let’s support one another.  Please leave a comment below about your own dreams-in-the-works and your Risk Assessment results, ok?

A Dream Acceleration Exercise for You:

In order to discover what’s under the bed or hiding in the unrealized dreams closet, this exercise will bring awareness to, and shine a light on, what might have you stuck.  This is a chance to set aside those reasonable reasons long enough to honor your DEEPER wisdom, connect to your bravery, and gain clarity about why you are where you are.

Ready? Set? Go!

Grab a blank piece of paper and fold it in half vertically or draw a simple table with two columns.

Label column 1: “Risks In Realizing my Dream of (fill in the blank).”

Then jot down the RISKS and costs that come to your mind about pursuing and realizing your dream.  Ask yourself these questions: What’s at risk if I am living my dream?  What do I need to consider in taking this leap of faith?  If you’re like most, it’s probably pretty easy for you to come up with risks considering your dream realization journey.

And most people stop right there. What’s too often NOT considered is identifying the costs of NOT pursuing your dream. What’s at risk if you DON’T go for it …  if you DON’T move forward into action?

Column 2: “Risks of NOT Pursuing My Dream of (fill in the blank).” 
Jot down the first things that come up for you around these questions:
  • What’s at risk if I don’t take action and move forward on my dream?
  • What’s the risk of always wondering?
  • What might the impact be on your happiness – even on your health?
  • How confident and proud of yourself will you be if you don’t explore the possibility?
  • And, lastly, how will it feel to always wonder about what could have been?

Only you know this answer for you, but as someone who has coached folks from age 18 to 78, I know keeping your deepest desires and dreams stored away, in a neat and tidy little box, to be a HUGE RISK!

Allow this exercise to support you.  More often than not, when there’s an honest assessment of not only the risks of going-for-it, but also the risks of staying exactly where you ARE … the costs of not finding out often far outweigh the potential costs and risks of going for it.

However big, small, silly or vague you may think your dream is, I believe that like the little sprouting acorn, your dreams are the voice of your soul, ready to burst through any obstacles and grow and live in the world.  And, there’s simply no way around the fact that in order to follow your dreams, you’ll absolutely need to leave your safe have and align yourself with support from those who believe in you and your dreams.

Want more support?  Click here.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara

What’s YOUR Superpower?

I had the unique opportunity to answer this question this week and, while it admittedly feels vulnerable as can be to share my from-the-gut unedited reply, I’ve decided to post it here – to share it – in hopes that it will inspire YOU to consider this question for yourself and share wonderwomanyour own reply in the comments below.

Here’s my quick answer:

I’m frickin’ fierce about “no limits” and am resourceful as hell. I always find/see “a way.” To me, it is vividly clear that the biggest hurdle to dream realization is not “the how,” but rather the blocks to expansive visioning and full-on what-do-you-REALLY-want dreaming.  I am an advocate and a freedom-fighter for closeted dreams and closeted creativity.  In an (admittedly over-dramatic) sense, I feel like my true client is the dream or the creativity itself, and that I coach the person so they can essentially get out of “our” way.

(Quick segue: A client of mine this week told me she took artwork out of her closet that had been in there for years and hung it on the walls all around her home. I was absolutely tickled — art literally came out of the closet!! Delighted doesn’t even begin to describe how I felt.)

So, yeah – I give Permission (with a capital P) for unrestricted imagination and personal freedom like nobody’s business.  I am hyper-creative with a flair for drama – obviously – and I absolutely lovelovelove few things more than to apply this creative energy to creating environments (both physical environments and virtual “containers”) that expand minds and give folks profound permission and complete freedom to dream and vision for their life beyond the limits of what they’ve ever allowed themselves to before — and then … to share it, let it be seen, have it feel real, and start to see that it IS possible.  I totally rock at this.    🙂

I have yet to have someone convince me that something is impossible.  And few try, because they quickly see it’s futile.  In short, I am the self-proclaimed Possibility Queen.  (And – yep, you bet I owe the domain www.thepossibilityqueen.com).

So what’s YOUR superpower?  What is a unique and natural ability – something you do – maybe even without trying?  Shine a light on it here. Join me in courageously letting it be seen.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara