A Bold Life Experiment

Experiments, by their very nature, aren’t about “doing it right”. They are about trial and error and opening up to new discoveries found along the way. Yet, all too often we stay put and play it “safe” – out of fear of failure, or doing it wrong, or believing it has to be perfectly perfect. These fears and limiting beliefs are exactly what keeps you stuck in repeating patterns and creating unwanted results.

By experimenting with new approaches and ways of being, life quickly becomes an adventure again, and new, exciting, creative opportunities begin to show themselves.

Today I want to:

  1. Give a sneak-peak into Day 1 of my FREE 5-Day Mission Possible Experiments-in-Action Program.
  2. Share a BOLD personal experiment I’m about to embark on in my own life. 

Here’s the scoop. The full 5-day Mission Possible Experiments-in-Action experience — which you can claim here — simply requires a willingness to engage in each of our five specially-designed, unique, powerful, fun, hands-on, can’t-do-it-wrong Experiments. Designed with busy people in mind, each high-impact experiment can easily be integrated into your day no matter what your schedule is.

And since “someday” is not a day of the week, it all starts NOW, with you creating a pure and powerful dream-accelerating ripple effect in your life, dusting off those dreams that have been put way up on that hard-to-reach shelf, or have been locked away or long forgotten – or that simply feel too unrealistic or impossible to ever actually come to fruition.

The 5-Day Experiments-in-Action Program will help you get personal with your dreams, open up to new discoveries, and activate that powerful, playful, dormant creativity that resides within YOU. Whether you are a manifesting aficionado, or have never really given your dreams much attention or importance, or maybe aren’t sure what your dreams are — either way, you will receive so much from this FREE Program.

To give you a taster, here’s Mission Possible Experiment #1:

The way you do things is, in many ways, as important as WHAT you do.

One of my biggest passions and unique abilities is helping driven dreamers and what I often refer to as “closeted creatives” to break pattern and release themselves from status quo expectations and “shoulds”, while quickly creating a life that they truly can’t wait to get-up-and-out-of-bed-for-in-the-morning.

You’ve likely heard this quote before, frequently credited to Albert Einstein: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”

Whoever said it … there’s truth to it.

Making a conscious shift in your routine, even a slight one, can be a way to intentionally shake things up! While routine and consistent approaches can support efficiency and learning new skills … the down-side is that same-old-same-old routines can become monotonous and detrimental, stifling your creative energy and impeding the spontaneity and fun that comes from the unexpected!

These “creature of habit” behaviors can quickly become robotic, unconscious ways of being. For example: Have you even gotten in the car and gone to work, or the gym, or the grocery store, and after arriving realized that you don’t remember the actual drive there?

When you take the same route, time and time again, your mind goes into autopilot. This can happen with your life too. And, especially for us creative thinkers, and innovative dreamers … autopilot gets downright BORING!

So, consider for yourself: What do YOU do, in the same way, virtually every time? What’s YOUR routine?

Step 1) Scan through a typical day in your mind and decide on something that you’ll do differently today – something that breaks up your everyday pattern. Color outside the lines, so to speak, or what’s “typical” for you.

It doesn’t have to earth shattering to be significant.

Whatever it is that you choose to do differently, allow it to be a symbolic welcoming of new patterns and new experiences in your life. Allow it to serve as a small yet powerful demonstration of your personal willingness to embark on a playful adventure into the unknown.

For example, you might:

  • Take a different route to work.
  • Wear an outfit that you never wear.
  • Eat something you’ve never eaten before.
  • If you always eat with others, eat alone – or vice versa.
  • Call someone you haven’t talked to in years.
  • If you have a work-out routine, do something new to work up a sweat today.
  • Exit/enter through a different door than you usually do.
  • Maybe go outside and walk around your home in order to get from one room to another. 🙂
  • You get the idea…

Step 2) Pay attention to how it feels.

Tune in and be the Curious Observer of your own experience. Really notice what comes up for you and write down your observations. (For fun, you might pretend you’re wearing a lab coat while you make your notes.) Do your best to resist judging what you notice. Just notice, while staying curious about what you see, feel, and experience.

Simple AND powerful. Join me for the full 5-day Experiments-in-Action program and by this time next week, you will have uncovered new ideas, possibilities and solutions for your life that you hadn’t seen before … all simply by doing one daily experiment that can be easily done no matter what your schedule!

As promised, here’s the second part of my share with you today. Want to know about the BOLD personal experiment I’m about to embark on in my own life?  Click below to read more…

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Pregnant With A Dream: Meeting Lisa Nichols

Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?  Now, I don’t mean a baby – but rather a dream that you KNOW you are meant to bring to life, to birth something that *if you don’t* you’ll always wonder what could have been…

In the words of Marianne Williamson “Each of us is pregnant with a better version of ourselves.”

So true.  I know first-hand what it feels like to have dreams that scare the bejesus out of me, and to simultaneously know that I *MUST* bring them to life, despite my sometimes overwhelming fear. That’s why I wrote the book, Are You Pregnant With a Dream?

As life coach and founder of Create Your Life!, I know what it takes to go from Fear to Freedom, and I have coached hundreds, soon to be thousands, on the magic and momentum that takes hold when my 9-step Dream Acceleration(TM) Process gets activated.

In September 2013, after watching a YouTube video of Ms. Lisa Nichols speaking (she was in the movie The Secret, a Chicken Soup for the Soul author, founder of Motivating the Masses, and so much more…) a dream was activated in me: I wanted to meet her.  Not in a celebrity-crazed-kind-of-way.  But in a … this-woman-is-powerful-and-the-real-deal-and-I-feel-absolutely-compelled-to-do-whatever-I need-to-to-meet-and-talk-to-her kind of way.  And, proof to the power of a dream-in-action, just two short months later, it happened! 

Here are some “selfies” that Lisa Nichols and I took after a little heart-to-heart.

(Read more on what’s extra-special about THIS photo below.)

And here’s one of her working her magic on stage:

A quick aside about that second photo of us standing in front of the Lisa Nichols poster:

I noticed that, in the poster, she has braces on her teeth – and I asked her about it.  Now, really, do you think she could have had that photoshopped out before blowing it up into a great big stand-on-it’s-own poster?  Shoot. Let’s be honest … I would’ve!

Of course she could have!  BUT – she had braces when the photo was taken, so that’s what’s in the picture.  How’s THAT for a little window into how *REAL* this woman is.  🙂

It was a true honor and a privilege to not only meet her, but even more … after our off-stage connection, there was a moment (during the height of her guiding the room through a mind-blowing belief transformation process), that I SAW her.  And – she saw me see her.

People were shouting and crying and doing all kinds of wild, free and full self-expression … an experience that left every person in that room forever changed …

She did what only the best speakers do: she got herself out of the way.  And in that moment, I SAW HER, with tears in her eyes, as the room was divided into our small groups doing the exercise she had given us to do.  She and I locked eyes.  It’s was a pregnant pause.  Beautiful beyond words.  One that I will never forget it.

Thank you, Lisa Nichols. Thank you Universe of Possibility.  It’s good to be alive.  It’s not always easy – but it’s so so good…  We are absolutely in this together.

So, again, may I ask … Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.

Love and blessings,

Tara

Basement & Bathtub Mojo

Joy to you!

Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!

bathYep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!

I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.

Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!)  My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower.  Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!

So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub.  It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh…  A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.

How ’bout you?  What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?

Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate?  And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?

Do You Dream of Time OFF?

Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!

Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?

vacaWhen was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?

Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work.  Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month!  Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!

Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now.  Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?

Notice: What’s coming up for you?  Are you hearing yourself say, for example:

  • “When I’m done with this project then maybe I’ll look at my calendar.”
  • “I don’t have time, with my family commitments and all..”
  • “I haven’t worked hard enough to really deserve time off.”
  • “There’s no money in the budget for a vacation.”
  • “Time off will only set me back and create more work.”
  • “I would love to but…(fill in the blank)”

Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …

It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your healthkiddie pool and well-being.

We *all* need time off!  And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!

Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.

If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!?  Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?

Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)

Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation!  Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair.  It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours!  Enjoy!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Meet a Create Your Life! Dreamer (You are NOT the only one.)

Meet JaninaJanina

“Have you had such amazing opportunities in your life that seemed like they were delivered to the wrong person or at the wrong time?

You think: “This couldn’t be for me! This is too much! It sounds great but add one more thing to my plate?”.

But something inside you feels inspired to go with it and to go FOR it!  And when you look back, you know that was a GIFT and it was such a pivotal event that changed so much?

Two years ago, when I was presented with and considered the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program those were the questions I was asking myself!!!  But when the nudge and inner feelings said “go for it”, I committed to devote 2 months to learn more and be open to whatever that meant for me at the time.

For 8 weeks, I experienced emotions that went all over the place – scared to learn something new about myself, excited to grow and expand, grateful for meeting new people and forming relationships who I knew were key in supporting me in the changes, learnings and shifting that I was experiencing during that time.  Now I feel NO REGRETS!  Those 8 weeks of material gave me so much to think about in my life – I felt like I had more CHOICES and discovered I had PERMISSION to decide what was right and good for me and SEE what was really possible!

When an opportunity comes along like this – AND at a significant price reduction – how can you not at least see what it is about and consider how it might create shifts in your life? If you have thoughts, concerns or questions, please feel free to message me.”

~  Janina Goldberg

What marathons mean to me

marathonThere are a lot of things happening in our world right now … things that don’t make sense and have us asking a lot of tough questions.  Maybe you are way beyond the point of asking questions – and *really* just want answers! How do we make sense of it all? What’s it all mean?  Why is this happening now? And what can or should we do about it?

I don’t have the answers, but what I DO know is that a powerful way to bridge healing and understanding, is through sharing our feelings and our stories. So with that in mind and heart … I want to share a bit about what marathons mean to me.  

The day after the bombing, I read an article that really resonated entitled “The People Who Watch Marathons” by Erin Gloria Ryan. Here’s a quote from the article:

One of the many puzzling aspects of yesterday’s attacks was the question of what, exactly, the perpetrators thought they’d accomplish by targeting what basically amounts to a celebration of human tenacity. If anything, the tragedy in Boston will further solidify the bond between runner and spectator … If anyone thought this attack would discourage the runners or the watchers, they’ve clearly never been to a marathon.”

Ditto THAT!  As a kid, I saw my dad, at 50 years old, proudly cross the finish line of his first marathon (and then throw up). I also watched and celebrated as my sister who, as part of a relay team, crossed a marathon finish line. Several other relatives and friends of mine have also prevailed over this extraordinary 26.2 mile challenge.

On several occasions, I’ve been known to attend, to cheer, and to be moved to tears – for hours – at marathons with no one I know (or know that I know) in them.  And while it pales in comparison to a marathon, on the receiving end, as someone who has run two 5K races, I’ve been so incredibly grateful for the energy and encouragement of spectators.

My heart is with all who were effected by what happened in Boston on April 15th.

In the spirit of banding together, let’s take pause and really invest in giving ourselves the gift of time for reflection, to consider how to best make YOUR contribution to the joy and peace of the world.  The time is NOW.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

 

Dreaming is Fun

nycaptA few weeks ago, after declaring that I want to spend more time in – and possibly move to – NYC, I signed up to receive email updates about NYC rental listings through Elliman Properties.  I went on their website and created my “profile” with my price ranges, etc. so I could receive email notifications of the shoe boxes available for me to choose from.  :-/

Since then, I’ve been receiving daily emails for, not rentals – but properties for sale, into the range of $27 Million. Funny, huh?

I’ve written to them twice about this and received a reply that they fixed it for me.  But they didn’t.  I continue to receive sale listings into the millions, which I’ve decided is fine with me for now because I’m actually really enjoying it.  (Could the Universe be telling me something?)

Anyway, of all I’ve seen, there’s one listing (that happens to be under $1M – cheap!) that makes my dreamin’ self swoon. Wanna see it?

http://www.elliman.com/listing-photos?l=f962c098084d9617355723c9a9c54ecf9b2d49fcd7535b2a-607df8f56614497fe99f8e2ec8c0f0037a9e36cf 

What are YOU dreaming about these days? Post a comment below and join me in dreaming out loud, activating the power and possibility that comes with sharing dreams with others.

Dreaming is fun,

Tara

Do you realize your dream risks?

Nyc dancers

Joy to You!

As Dream Realization Coach and “Dream Queen,” I want to share a dream of my own – AND a special Dream Acceleration™ Exercise to support YOUR dream realization process with a make-it-real Dream Risk Assessment.

The photo on the right is of a recent dance “field trip” to NYC with some of my Providence Salsa Family.

We had a BLAST – after a 3-hour lesson in the afternoon with world-class teachers, we found our way to a Salsa Social at night that was AWESOME. Talk about energy! Whew! By the end of the night, my feet where aching, I was drenched in sweat, and my heart was SO happy.

Let the record show: I love ‘lil Rhody.

And every few months, I find an excuse to go to NYC to get my Big Apple fix, which is something that can continue … BUT lately, I’m finding that the more I go, the less I want to leave!

I’ve done the Risk Assessment Exercise (see below for details) about my budding dream to live in NYC, and I’ll be honest, my list in column #1 is L-O-N-G!  But since I think I’ll always wonder if I don’t (column #2) … I’m starting to take steps to plant seeds and find out more about what would need to happen to make the move. In case there was any doubt … know that we – you and I – are absolutely in this ongoing dream realization process together.

Let’s support one another.  Please leave a comment below about your own dreams-in-the-works and your Risk Assessment results, ok?

A Dream Acceleration Exercise for You:

In order to discover what’s under the bed or hiding in the unrealized dreams closet, this exercise will bring awareness to, and shine a light on, what might have you stuck.  This is a chance to set aside those reasonable reasons long enough to honor your DEEPER wisdom, connect to your bravery, and gain clarity about why you are where you are.

Ready? Set? Go!

Grab a blank piece of paper and fold it in half vertically or draw a simple table with two columns.

Label column 1: “Risks In Realizing my Dream of (fill in the blank).”

Then jot down the RISKS and costs that come to your mind about pursuing and realizing your dream.  Ask yourself these questions: What’s at risk if I am living my dream?  What do I need to consider in taking this leap of faith?  If you’re like most, it’s probably pretty easy for you to come up with risks considering your dream realization journey.

And most people stop right there. What’s too often NOT considered is identifying the costs of NOT pursuing your dream. What’s at risk if you DON’T go for it …  if you DON’T move forward into action?

Column 2: “Risks of NOT Pursuing My Dream of (fill in the blank).” 
Jot down the first things that come up for you around these questions:
  • What’s at risk if I don’t take action and move forward on my dream?
  • What’s the risk of always wondering?
  • What might the impact be on your happiness – even on your health?
  • How confident and proud of yourself will you be if you don’t explore the possibility?
  • And, lastly, how will it feel to always wonder about what could have been?

Only you know this answer for you, but as someone who has coached folks from age 18 to 78, I know keeping your deepest desires and dreams stored away, in a neat and tidy little box, to be a HUGE RISK!

Allow this exercise to support you.  More often than not, when there’s an honest assessment of not only the risks of going-for-it, but also the risks of staying exactly where you ARE … the costs of not finding out often far outweigh the potential costs and risks of going for it.

However big, small, silly or vague you may think your dream is, I believe that like the little sprouting acorn, your dreams are the voice of your soul, ready to burst through any obstacles and grow and live in the world.  And, there’s simply no way around the fact that in order to follow your dreams, you’ll absolutely need to leave your safe have and align yourself with support from those who believe in you and your dreams.

Want more support?  Click here.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara

What’s YOUR Superpower?

I had the unique opportunity to answer this question this week and, while it admittedly feels vulnerable as can be to share my from-the-gut unedited reply, I’ve decided to post it here – to share it – in hopes that it will inspire YOU to consider this question for yourself and share wonderwomanyour own reply in the comments below.

Here’s my quick answer:

I’m frickin’ fierce about “no limits” and am resourceful as hell. I always find/see “a way.” To me, it is vividly clear that the biggest hurdle to dream realization is not “the how,” but rather the blocks to expansive visioning and full-on what-do-you-REALLY-want dreaming.  I am an advocate and a freedom-fighter for closeted dreams and closeted creativity.  In an (admittedly over-dramatic) sense, I feel like my true client is the dream or the creativity itself, and that I coach the person so they can essentially get out of “our” way.

(Quick segue: A client of mine this week told me she took artwork out of her closet that had been in there for years and hung it on the walls all around her home. I was absolutely tickled — art literally came out of the closet!! Delighted doesn’t even begin to describe how I felt.)

So, yeah – I give Permission (with a capital P) for unrestricted imagination and personal freedom like nobody’s business.  I am hyper-creative with a flair for drama – obviously – and I absolutely lovelovelove few things more than to apply this creative energy to creating environments (both physical environments and virtual “containers”) that expand minds and give folks profound permission and complete freedom to dream and vision for their life beyond the limits of what they’ve ever allowed themselves to before — and then … to share it, let it be seen, have it feel real, and start to see that it IS possible.  I totally rock at this.    🙂

I have yet to have someone convince me that something is impossible.  And few try, because they quickly see it’s futile.  In short, I am the self-proclaimed Possibility Queen.  (And – yep, you bet I owe the domain www.thepossibilityqueen.com).

So what’s YOUR superpower?  What is a unique and natural ability – something you do – maybe even without trying?  Shine a light on it here. Join me in courageously letting it be seen.

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara

Soggy Sandwiches & Pride Precautions on the Road to Dream Realization

I laughed out loud this week as I shared with a friend about my life in 2004 … I had just been laid off from my j-o-b and, embracing the opportunity to live my dream of being an entrepreneur, I “launched” my coaching company (a.k.a.: sent an anticlimactic email newsletter to friends and family).

I had slightly more than ZERO dollars in the bank and, weekly, I walked to a nearby deli, where for $6, they sold MASSIVE sandwiches (an entire loaf of bread stuffed with the deli selections of your choosing).  I’d order one, often paying with loose change, take it home, and cut it into 6 pieces: lunch, dinner, lunch, dinner, lunch, dinner… for the next three days!  Day 3 was always a bummer because by then it was super soggy. I ate it anyway because it’s what I had.

Ready to bust out?I didn’t have a Plan B. I didn’t have money … and I ALSO didn’t have anyone to bail me out if I failed. 

But what I DID have was:

  1. Fierce determination.
  2. A wobbly but committed belief in my fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants self.
  3. A willingness to do whatever it took to Be who I was Becoming … to fulfill the vision I saw of my own potential.

Do you see yourself in this?

Here’s another 2004 story that makes me laugh (now, not then) … 

Three nights a week, I got in my old beater car, said a prayer and turned the key. When it started, I said another one: “Thank God!”

With still-warm business cards in the pocket of my Dress Barn suit, I would find my way to that evening’s local business networking event. I was totally intimidated and frightfully aware that I really had no business being there (in more ways than one) – but I went anyway.  I intentionally parked my please-don’t-let-anyone-see-what-I’m-driving car at least 6 blocks away – a pride precaution.

I went determined to grow my mailing list.  I was all too aware that the “newsletter” I wrote each week was only being read ignored by friends and family.  So, at these networking events I always asked anyone who gave me their business card if I could have their permission to add them to my newsletter list.  For whatever reason, almost everyone agreed.  Little successes are important and I remember celebrating in my (“please start”) car after each event as I counted how many business cards I had collected.  I couldn’t wait to go home and add them to my growing-bit-by-bit mailing list.

This, a few pro bono clients, and an absolute unwillingness to quit, is how Create Your Life! began.

Of course a lot has happened between now and then … but flashing forward to now, these eight or so years later I no longer eat soggy sandwiches. I drive a car that I love (seen below).  And Create Your Life! serves clients around the world through a community that grows every day.

MINISO MUCH TRANSFORMATION has happened in my life and in my business since then that I barely recognize “circa 2004 Tara”!

And this is good news for YOU because … I’m on a mission to share everything I’ve learned about transformation – what works, what doesn’t, and how to get on your very own fast-track to who YOU are becoming.

Through my self-study, my graduate-level studies, and my trial-and-error lessons learned, I have created the comprehensive Dream Acceleration™ Program & Process to support YOU in accelerating your own busting out of that confining old shell, stepping up and out in a bigger, bolder way, and significantly speeding up your dream realization successes by connecting to and BEING your Future You … the self-actualized Self that YOU are in the process of becoming.

Eager to learn more about how to accelerate YOUR journey? I’d love to chat with you — my GIFT.  Just send me a quick email with “Dream Discovery session” in the header along with times that work best and we’ll get a date on the calendar to connect. That said, my calendar is tight, so the sooner you respond, the sooner we can chat!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,