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Joy to you!
Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!
Yep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!
I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.
Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!) My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower. Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!
So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub. It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh… A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.
How ’bout you? What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?
Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate? And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?
Do You Dream of Time OFF?
Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!
Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?
When was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?
Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work. Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month! Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!
Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now. Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?
Notice: What’s coming up for you? Are you hearing yourself say, for example:
- “When I’m done with this project then maybe I’ll look at my calendar.”
- “I don’t have time, with my family commitments and all..”
- “I haven’t worked hard enough to really deserve time off.”
- “There’s no money in the budget for a vacation.”
- “Time off will only set me back and create more work.”
- “I would love to but…(fill in the blank)”
Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …
It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your health and well-being.
We *all* need time off! And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!
Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.
If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!? Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?
Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)
Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation! Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair. It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours! Enjoy!
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
Fear does NOT want you to read this … and certainly not to the end!
That’s because I’m going to share it’s best kept SECRET, so that the next time fear shows itself and threatens to de-rail your dreams, you will be prepared for it’s savvy powers of persuasion.
Fear is TOO OFTEN victorious.
Fear too often “wins” because many people would sooner share their worst fear with the mailman before they share what they dream of! Dreams are often thought to be private, sometimes even under lock and key … and because of THIS, showing up at the starting line can sometimes feel like the riskiest part. And for this reason alone, far too many don’t even begin!
Oooo, I know…. Fear sure knows how to get to YOU! Often, all it takes is a few words and you surrender:
“Oh, be realistic!”
“You’ll never succeed.”
“Be reasonable … I mean, really.”
“Don’t set your sights too high.”
“Who do you think you ARE?”
“Why rock the boat?”
“Imagine what so-and-so will say…”
“Oh, things are good enough.”
“You don’t have enough (fill in the blank) for that.”
And the list goes on…
Just like that, any ONE of those statements can send you right back to your repetitive reality, to living your ‘default life’ (a.k.a. what’s familiar). No matter how miserable you may be … hey, at least you know what to expect, right?
Wrong. Not okay. This logic and belief in limitation really and truly makes my heart hurt.
Because, I know there’s another way, and I know there’s a wiser, braver, bolder part of YOU – the part of you that, even in spite of fear, believes in possibility despite “the odds” and believes in the inherent wisdom of your heart. Even if only on occasion. You get glimpses of a higher truth – which more than likely then kicks your fears back into overdrive … and round and round it goes!
It’s crazy-making! And fear can be SO convincing – believe me, I know!
Because, you see …
… THAT’S its genius! It knows exactly what will leave you feeling defenseless. It knows exactly where your weak spots are (because fear IS your weak spot) and it is MASTERFUL at scaring you right back into your “safe zone” of “good enough” – or worse – what I call “comfortable misery.”
AND – it has stamina!
For example, if, by chance, one of those first statements don’t do the trick to have you resigned to “reality”, Fear has a Plan B waiting in the wings: It’ll serve up an abundance of so-called “evidence.”
You know what I mean … a history lesson, a probability quiz, reminders about the expectations of others and the “rules” of social norms that you “should” follow … It’ll even dredge up that story about that-time-when-you-did-that-thing (and then felt like a fool or a failure)… and why you should do everything in your power to avoid risking something like that happening again!
Oh yes, fear can have you paralyzed in no time. It can EVEN trick you into thinking it’s on your SIDE! That is, if you’re not prepared…
That’s why it’s absolutely critical to remember: Just ‘cuz it’s persuasive and persistent, doesn’t mean it’s True!
Because the Truth with a capital “T” is that possibility ABOUNDS and your dreams are simply waiting for YOU to engage … ya know, instead of running away or running for a broom to sweep it back under the rug!
See, what’s *so* critical to understand is that your dream BECOMES possible the moment you declare it to be! You got that? Worth repeating: What’s so critical and what I really want you to “get” is that your dreams become possible for you the moment you DECLARE that that they are! (Yes, you really ARE that powerful.)
Have YOU mistakenly filed your dreams under “impossible”? (It’s okay. You can re-file them.)
In the face of fear, it can be *so* easy to feel resigned and hopeless about your dreams. It’s easy to feel scattered and overwhelmed, or “too busy” to STOP and take an honest inventory of your precious life passing you by…
YET – the sooner you bravely do so, and set yourself up with the right support, the sooner you’ll LIVE them. It’s that simple really.
Here’s what fear WON’T tell you…
–> What fear won’t tell you, and what it wants more than anything to KEEP you from seeing … is the cost of NOT going for it.
–> What’s the price you’re paying by NOT investing in your dream(s)?
–> How is it impacting you to put off the fulfillment of your heart’s deepest desires?
–> What is the cost – and the RISK – of always wondering?
–> What’s the cost – and the RISK – of waiting … another 6 months? Year? Another 5 years? 10 years?
Can you afford THAT?!? Fear fears THIS question most of all … because it knows the answer is NO.
No matter how big, small, silly or vague you may think your dream is, it is time for YOU to start right now, from exactly where you ARE, to step up, believe in possibility, acknowledge your heart’s wisdom, celebrate the excitement of the journey ahead, and STOP wondering and waiting for “someday”.
When will you decide that NOW is the right time?
If you are tired of FEAR driving your life or slowing down your progress, join us and get ready for all that to change.
I can’t wait to get coaching with YOU!
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
PS – The link to reserve one of the last remaining spots now and put yourself on an accelerated path to living YOUR dreams is: www.DreamAccelerationProgram.com After you register, feel free to contact me directly to schedule a complimentary call to be sure that this program is a really good fit for you. If after we talk, you decide that it’s not, I am happy to refund your money.
“Have you had such amazing opportunities in your life that seemed like they were delivered to the wrong person or at the wrong time?
You think: “This couldn’t be for me! This is too much! It sounds great but add one more thing to my plate?”.
But something inside you feels inspired to go with it and to go FOR it! And when you look back, you know that was a GIFT and it was such a pivotal event that changed so much?
Two years ago, when I was presented with and considered the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program those were the questions I was asking myself!!! But when the nudge and inner feelings said “go for it”, I committed to devote 2 months to learn more and be open to whatever that meant for me at the time.
For 8 weeks, I experienced emotions that went all over the place – scared to learn something new about myself, excited to grow and expand, grateful for meeting new people and forming relationships who I knew were key in supporting me in the changes, learnings and shifting that I was experiencing during that time. Now I feel NO REGRETS! Those 8 weeks of material gave me so much to think about in my life – I felt like I had more CHOICES and discovered I had PERMISSION to decide what was right and good for me and SEE what was really possible!
When an opportunity comes along like this – AND at a significant price reduction – how can you not at least see what it is about and consider how it might create shifts in your life? If you have thoughts, concerns or questions, please feel free to message me.”
~ Janina Goldberg
How would you describe your ideal mate? Perhaps you’ve thought of an image of that person; someone in good health, tall/short, nice smile, athletic, active, generous, social, a dancer, a biker, a skier – the list could go on, right? Or maybe you don’t have a list of your ideal mate’s physical characteristics or interests but certainly you know how you want the interaction within your relationship to be and, more importantly, you likely know how you want to FEEL in this relationship.
You might desire your relationship to be open, honest, caring and loving. You want to FEEL cared for, loved, heard, respected, trusted, supported, appreciated and understood. Because, let’s face it, feeling these things in relationships feels good!
Now, what if I asked you about your relationship with your dream?
- How would you describe your dream?
- What does it look like to you?
- How would you describe your “relationship” with your dream?
- How do you FEEL about your dream?
- What does it means to you in your life?
The clearer you get on your CURRENT relationship to your dream, the greater awareness you will have to take your relationship with your dream to the next level!
One topic that is explored at a much deeper level during the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program is about relationships. We all know what it means to nurture our relationships with others, right? Well, during the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program, to shine a light on and become more aware of our relationship with our dreams, we imagine switching places with our dreams and what it might feel like to be a dream of yours, in a relationship with you.
I believe in my heart of hearts,
that your dreams are the voice of your soul,
and listening is your gift to the world.
As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. So consider your dream’s perspective:
- What would it be like to BE your dream in a relationship with YOU?
- How are you treating your dream right now?
- Does your dream feel well cared for?
- Does your dream feel ignored, disregarded, smothered or maybe downright unappreciated?
- Does your dream feel like no one believes in it or trusts it?
- Does your dream feel loved?
What are you noticing? Honesty can only serve you here so just notice whatever comes up for you.
You are in a relationship with your dreams – right now. It’s the truth!
These questions are not to make you feel bad, but to shine a light on your CURRENT relationship with your dream and raise your awareness around this. It’s about nurturing your RELATIONSHIP with your dreams…giving them love and attention, and easing up on all the anxiety and doubts that may otherwise surround your relationship.
And, this is not to say that you won’t have doubts or that you need to deny or ignore your hesitations and concerns. But rather…that you begin to just Raise Your Awareness about who you are BEING in your relationship to what it is that you desire.
Another point that is stated many times throughout the Dream Acceleration™ Program is that we always create from the present moment … like the red star on a trail map. You must first identify where you ARE before you can get where you want to go.
As you get more acquainted and familiar with YOUR PART in the relationship, and consciously put *more* attention and energy there…such wonder and possibility awaits!
Bravely DECLARE that NOW is your “someday”
– simply because YOU said so!
Your Next Dream Relationship Building Step:
Are you feeling like your relationship with your dream could use a facilitator? Does your dream desire MORE of a relationship with YOU? Are you ready to stop playing small and transform your relationship with your dream for more abundance, well-being, and freedom? Get your Dream Realization Journey on track: Reach out to Tara personally (with “Dream Discovery session” in the header) and as my GIFT to you, we’ll schedule a time to connect for a complimentary tele-coaching session and explore together how I might support you in accelerating your own inspired journey. You’ll be amazed what can happen in just one call together!
There are a lot of things happening in our world right now … things that don’t make sense and have us asking a lot of tough questions. Maybe you are way beyond the point of asking questions – and *really* just want answers! How do we make sense of it all? What’s it all mean? Why is this happening now? And what can or should we do about it?
I don’t have the answers, but what I DO know is that a powerful way to bridge healing and understanding, is through sharing our feelings and our stories. So with that in mind and heart … I want to share a bit about what marathons mean to me.
The day after the bombing, I read an article that really resonated entitled “The People Who Watch Marathons” by Erin Gloria Ryan. Here’s a quote from the article:
“One of the many puzzling aspects of yesterday’s attacks was the question of what, exactly, the perpetrators thought they’d accomplish by targeting what basically amounts to a celebration of human tenacity. If anything, the tragedy in Boston will further solidify the bond between runner and spectator … If anyone thought this attack would discourage the runners or the watchers, they’ve clearly never been to a marathon.”
Ditto THAT! As a kid, I saw my dad, at 50 years old, proudly cross the finish line of his first marathon (and then throw up). I also watched and celebrated as my sister who, as part of a relay team, crossed a marathon finish line. Several other relatives and friends of mine have also prevailed over this extraordinary 26.2 mile challenge.
On several occasions, I’ve been known to attend, to cheer, and to be moved to tears – for hours – at marathons with no one I know (or know that I know) in them. And while it pales in comparison to a marathon, on the receiving end, as someone who has run two 5K races, I’ve been so incredibly grateful for the energy and encouragement of spectators.
My heart is with all who were effected by what happened in Boston on April 15th.
In the spirit of banding together, let’s take pause and really invest in giving ourselves the gift of time for reflection, to consider how to best make YOUR contribution to the joy and peace of the world. The time is NOW.
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
A few weeks ago, after declaring that I want to spend more time in – and possibly move to – NYC, I signed up to receive email updates about NYC rental listings through Elliman Properties. I went on their website and created my “profile” with my price ranges, etc. so I could receive email notifications of the shoe boxes available for me to choose from. :-/
Since then, I’ve been receiving daily emails for, not rentals – but properties for sale, into the range of $27 Million. Funny, huh?
I’ve written to them twice about this and received a reply that they fixed it for me. But they didn’t. I continue to receive sale listings into the millions, which I’ve decided is fine with me for now because I’m actually really enjoying it. (Could the Universe be telling me something?)
Anyway, of all I’ve seen, there’s one listing (that happens to be under $1M – cheap!) that makes my dreamin’ self swoon. Wanna see it?
What are YOU dreaming about these days? Post a comment below and join me in dreaming out loud, activating the power and possibility that comes with sharing dreams with others.
Dreaming is fun,
Joy to You!
As Dream Realization Coach and “Dream Queen,” I want to share a dream of my own – AND a special Dream Acceleration™ Exercise to support YOUR dream realization process with a make-it-real Dream Risk Assessment.
The photo on the right is of a recent dance “field trip” to NYC with some of my Providence Salsa Family.
We had a BLAST – after a 3-hour lesson in the afternoon with world-class teachers, we found our way to a Salsa Social at night that was AWESOME. Talk about energy! Whew! By the end of the night, my feet where aching, I was drenched in sweat, and my heart was SO happy.
Let the record show: I love ‘lil Rhody.
And every few months, I find an excuse to go to NYC to get my Big Apple fix, which is something that can continue … BUT lately, I’m finding that the more I go, the less I want to leave!
I’ve done the Risk Assessment Exercise (see below for details) about my budding dream to live in NYC, and I’ll be honest, my list in column #1 is L-O-N-G! But since I think I’ll always wonder if I don’t (column #2) … I’m starting to take steps to plant seeds and find out more about what would need to happen to make the move. In case there was any doubt … know that we – you and I – are absolutely in this ongoing dream realization process together.
Let’s support one another. Please leave a comment below about your own dreams-in-the-works and your Risk Assessment results, ok?
A Dream Acceleration Exercise for You:
In order to discover what’s under the bed or hiding in the unrealized dreams closet, this exercise will bring awareness to, and shine a light on, what might have you stuck. This is a chance to set aside those reasonable reasons long enough to honor your DEEPER wisdom, connect to your bravery, and gain clarity about why you are where you are.
Ready? Set? Go!
Grab a blank piece of paper and fold it in half vertically or draw a simple table with two columns.
Label column 1: “Risks In Realizing my Dream of (fill in the blank).”
Then jot down the RISKS and costs that come to your mind about pursuing and realizing your dream. Ask yourself these questions: What’s at risk if I am living my dream? What do I need to consider in taking this leap of faith? If you’re like most, it’s probably pretty easy for you to come up with risks considering your dream realization journey.
And most people stop right there. What’s too often NOT considered is identifying the costs of NOT pursuing your dream. What’s at risk if you DON’T go for it … if you DON’T move forward into action?
- What’s at risk if I don’t take action and move forward on my dream?
- What’s the risk of always wondering?
- What might the impact be on your happiness – even on your health?
- How confident and proud of yourself will you be if you don’t explore the possibility?
- And, lastly, how will it feel to always wonder about what could have been?
Only you know this answer for you, but as someone who has coached folks from age 18 to 78, I know keeping your deepest desires and dreams stored away, in a neat and tidy little box, to be a HUGE RISK!
Allow this exercise to support you. More often than not, when there’s an honest assessment of not only the risks of going-for-it, but also the risks of staying exactly where you ARE … the costs of not finding out often far outweigh the potential costs and risks of going for it.
However big, small, silly or vague you may think your dream is, I believe that like the little sprouting acorn, your dreams are the voice of your soul, ready to burst through any obstacles and grow and live in the world. And, there’s simply no way around the fact that in order to follow your dreams, you’ll absolutely need to leave your safe have and align yourself with support from those who believe in you and your dreams.
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May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
I had the unique opportunity to answer this question this week and, while it admittedly feels vulnerable as can be to share my from-the-gut unedited reply, I’ve decided to post it here – to share it – in hopes that it will inspire YOU to consider this question for yourself and share your own reply in the comments below.
Here’s my quick answer:
I’m frickin’ fierce about “no limits” and am resourceful as hell. I always find/see “a way.” To me, it is vividly clear that the biggest hurdle to dream realization is not “the how,” but rather the blocks to expansive visioning and full-on what-do-you-REALLY-want dreaming. I am an advocate and a freedom-fighter for closeted dreams and closeted creativity. In an (admittedly over-dramatic) sense, I feel like my true client is the dream or the creativity itself, and that I coach the person so they can essentially get out of “our” way.
(Quick segue: A client of mine this week told me she took artwork out of her closet that had been in there for years and hung it on the walls all around her home. I was absolutely tickled — art literally came out of the closet!! Delighted doesn’t even begin to describe how I felt.)
So, yeah – I give Permission (with a capital P) for unrestricted imagination and personal freedom like nobody’s business. I am hyper-creative with a flair for drama – obviously – and I absolutely lovelovelove few things more than to apply this creative energy to creating environments (both physical environments and virtual “containers”) that expand minds and give folks profound permission and complete freedom to dream and vision for their life beyond the limits of what they’ve ever allowed themselves to before — and then … to share it, let it be seen, have it feel real, and start to see that it IS possible. I totally rock at this. 🙂
I have yet to have someone convince me that something is impossible. And few try, because they quickly see it’s futile. In short, I am the self-proclaimed Possibility Queen. (And – yep, you bet I owe the domain www.thepossibilityqueen.com).
So what’s YOUR superpower? What is a unique and natural ability – something you do – maybe even without trying? Shine a light on it here. Join me in courageously letting it be seen.
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
I laughed out loud this week as I shared with a friend about my life in 2004 … I had just been laid off from my j-o-b and, embracing the opportunity to live my dream of being an entrepreneur, I “launched” my coaching company (a.k.a.: sent an anticlimactic email newsletter to friends and family).
I had slightly more than ZERO dollars in the bank and, weekly, I walked to a nearby deli, where for $6, they sold MASSIVE sandwiches (an entire loaf of bread stuffed with the deli selections of your choosing). I’d order one, often paying with loose change, take it home, and cut it into 6 pieces: lunch, dinner, lunch, dinner, lunch, dinner… for the next three days! Day 3 was always a bummer because by then it was super soggy. I ate it anyway because it’s what I had.
I didn’t have a Plan B. I didn’t have money … and I ALSO didn’t have anyone to bail me out if I failed.
But what I DID have was:
- Fierce determination.
- A wobbly but committed belief in my fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants self.
- A willingness to do whatever it took to Be who I was Becoming … to fulfill the vision I saw of my own potential.
Do you see yourself in this?
Here’s another 2004 story that makes me laugh (now, not then) …
Three nights a week, I got in my old beater car, said a prayer and turned the key. When it started, I said another one: “Thank God!”
With still-warm business cards in the pocket of my Dress Barn suit, I would find my way to that evening’s local business networking event. I was totally intimidated and frightfully aware that I really had no business being there (in more ways than one) – but I went anyway. I intentionally parked my please-don’t-let-anyone-see-what-I’m-driving car at least 6 blocks away – a pride precaution.
I went determined to grow my mailing list. I was all too aware that the “newsletter” I wrote each week was only being
read ignored by friends and family. So, at these networking events I always asked anyone who gave me their business card if I could have their permission to add them to my newsletter list. For whatever reason, almost everyone agreed. Little successes are important and I remember celebrating in my (“please start”) car after each event as I counted how many business cards I had collected. I couldn’t wait to go home and add them to my growing-bit-by-bit mailing list.
This, a few pro bono clients, and an absolute unwillingness to quit, is how Create Your Life! began.
Of course a lot has happened between now and then … but flashing forward to now, these eight or so years later I no longer eat soggy sandwiches. I drive a car that I love (seen below). And Create Your Life! serves clients around the world through a community that grows every day.
SO MUCH TRANSFORMATION has happened in my life and in my business since then that I barely recognize “circa 2004 Tara”!
And this is good news for YOU because … I’m on a mission to share everything I’ve learned about transformation – what works, what doesn’t, and how to get on your very own fast-track to who YOU are becoming.
Through my self-study, my graduate-level studies, and my trial-and-error lessons learned, I have created the comprehensive Dream Acceleration™ Program & Process to support YOU in accelerating your own busting out of that confining old shell, stepping up and out in a bigger, bolder way, and significantly speeding up your dream realization successes by connecting to and BEING your Future You … the self-actualized Self that YOU are in the process of becoming.
Eager to learn more about how to accelerate YOUR journey? I’d love to chat with you — my GIFT. Just send me a quick email with “Dream Discovery session” in the header along with times that work best and we’ll get a date on the calendar to connect. That said, my calendar is tight, so the sooner you respond, the sooner we can chat!
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,